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What if my ex doesn’t want to see his/her child, but I want him/her to?

Oftentimes parents gripe about wanting more custody or visitation with their child. However, less commonly, a parent may gripe about wanting less time with their child essentially. That is, the parent will complain about the other parent not exercising his/her custody or visitation time and wanting to “enforce” the order against that parent. Of course, some violations may be more frequent than others, like where the other parent missed a series of weeks with his/her child versus merely a weekend or two. Regardless of how tempted you may be to drop your child off on the other parent's doorstep to "force" the visitation, doing so would not be prudent or in your child's best interests. Plus, if you just dropped your child off without your ex being present, like if you just left your child at your ex's office or with his/her new partner, you run the risk of someone calling the police and/or getting CPS involved.

If you are in the boat of wanting to force the other parent to spend time with his/her kid, to be frank, you don’t have many options and are probably going to remain dissatisfied unless the other parents changes. Forcing a child to spend time with a parent who doesn’t want to spend time with him/her is not in the child’s best interests, which is the standard Nevada courts employ. A court would not enforce the order in that manner, since you simply cannot make someone want to parent his/her child, and a court likely will not hold the other parent in contempt, so don’t bank on the parent being “punished” for not taking his/her child during his/her scheduled time.

Other options to consider would be to modify the custody order to decrease the other parent’s time and to try to increase child support if circumstances warrant it, or to accommodate the other parent’s schedule if his/her excuse is the inability to accommodate the current schedule. You may also want to discuss the option of the other parent paying for babysitting or childcare if he/she would rather not have the child, but you arguably need it during his/her scheduled days. Unfortunately, the bottom line is that you are responsible for your child, so if the other parent doesn’t measure up to his/her duties as a parent in terms of spending time with his/her child, then you are still ultimately on the hook to step in. Try to keep personal feelings of anger or resentment aside and stay positive for your child, rather than embroiling your child in a nasty custody dispute or making your child feel unwanted by both sides. Kids can be more perceptive about such things than you realize.